Be Extreme Sexual (2 Hidden Secrets of a Sexual Man) – Fulfill Her Extreme Desires

Body language, flirting, alpha traits and love making always help you in getting women’s attention. After lots of failures, these are the first breakthrough things that allow an average man in the jungle of lionesses. But unfortunately, after entering inside the jungle, almost 99 percent of men do not know that how to handle a sexual lioness who is roaring behind the barriers. They ignore the reality of temporary flirting logic, which are taught by fake gurus, and eventually kill themselves inside the jungle. On the other hand, an extreme sexual man not only breaks the barriers but also becomes the king of those lionesses.

Why superstars are always extreme sexual for women?

Well, there are many hidden secrets of superstars that make women lust after them. Have you ever noticed sports players biting their nails and fidgeting in the grounds? How they still create extreme attraction with confusion and anxiety? Even in talk shows, superstars get confuse or project weak body language but still they heat things up all the time. Moreover, women drool over their gestures and think about them as the most attractive people on this planet.

Do not take me wrong here; body language, appearance and flirting improve your dating life but these are just small parts of a sexual man. Experts/movie directors are hiding the real secrets under their collars. They know that how to fulfill extreme desires of women and put sexual thoughts inside their head. They instantly create a secret bond that makes women see them as the most romantic, highly desirable and extreme sexual man. That secret bond keeps women lust after them entire life.

Here are two hidden secrets of an extreme sexual man. These secrets are not only for dating life but also very useful in long term relationships. Even your female friends will desire to be your love and raise their children with you.

1. Do not be Talker, Be Doer.

If you really want to create extreme level of attraction then be the doer. A man who loves to get things done becomes the sexual dynamite for women. According to surveys, almost 90 percent of men in this world are talkers. For women, men who hide themselves behind words are like the rabbits. On the other hand, men who are achievers are like the lions of jungle. They run miles a day for getting their fruits and showing their authority.

This is the hidden secret weapon which directors use in their movies for attracting women. Vampires, Superstars, Sportsmen and CEOs are not procrastinators. Their backs also kicked many times but their achieving habit keeps them wealthier, smarter and winner. If to win is your need, women will do whatever it takes to be your mate. However, if you try to achieve something only with your words, you will be avoided by women most of the times. The philosophy of a doer is to push him harder towards success. He has a natural desire to be the best and authoritative. So, as a doer, your authority in personal life and in profession is a sign of superiority for women.

So… what is the best way to show her that you are a doer? Well, it can be done in multiple ways. In fact, you can show her by only boiling an egg. In your conversations, it is always good to mention that you are making tea or cooking some light meal. In addition, in your long term relationship, you will create high sexual attraction by doing these little things. Of course, you have to put some effort in order to enjoy new bed sheets every night. Make plans and goals in your life and passionately achieve them. Let her know that you are a tough guy and few barriers can not stop you from victory.

Passion in your life, as a doer, will make you extreme sexual and very rich. Do things which you have passion for. For women, men who do what they love are always highly attractive. So, for becoming the master of lionesses, you have to be a doer in your life.

2. Be the Sexual Dynamite (Fulfill Her Extreme Desires).

There is a massive difference in between extreme attraction and erotic sex. If you are lean, fit and stronger then it does not mean that you are also fulfilling her extreme sexual desires. Her extreme desires always depend on your sexuality. Now, it is up to you that you project yourself as sexual dynamite or suicide bomber in erotic sex sessions.

During love making, men mostly do a biggest blunder by mixing up romance with hot intercourse sessions. Romance definitely has its own place in relationship but when it comes to fulfill the extreme desires of women, you have to be an excited aggressive lover because “90 percent of women’s sexual excitement drives from men’s excitement.” Women desire to take sexual excitement to the highest level that they lose control. So, an extreme sexual man erotically arouses the sexual excitement of women by hitting the right spots.

Here I am giving you a tip that can instantly create the excitement in your romance and erotic sex sessions.

“Treat her like a virgin for seducing her mind.” This is one of the best ways to seduce women. You can often see the impact of it in movies. That is why; superstars are always desirable to women because they treat their women like a virgin and successfully build the excitement in hot moments.

She will forget superstars and worship you like a sexual god if once you satisfy her extreme sexual desire.

Compulsive Sexual Behavior & Gay Men

Introduction

When managed in a healthy way, an active sex life can be one of life’s greatest gifts. Having been raised in an oppressive society about our homosexuality, sex can take on different meanings for gay men. Whether or not you believe the stereotype of gay men being promiscuous and “sex-starved”, the real truth is that when sex is taken to the extreme and it begins to interfere with your life and the accomplishment of your goals, damaging consequences can result that can destroy your future.

This article comes off the heels of my attendance at a recent professional workshop on treating compulsive sexual behaviors. It was an excellent investigation into the world of sexual addiction and was presented by Arizona-based therapist Paul Simpson, Ed.D. A lot of his presentation is mirrored by the work of Dr. Patrick Carnes, PhD, the pioneer of sexual addiction research and reputable author of a series of classic self-help books on sexual addiction treatment. Here is some useful information on sexual compulsivity and resources for recovery.

Am I Addicted To Sex?

When sex begins to interfere with your daily life, becomes a preoccupation to where you’re distracted from life tasks, or if sex controls your behavior instead of you “being in the driver’s seat”, these are all indicators that there may be a addiction at play. Additional factors cited by Simpson include loss of boundaries and having sex with less discrimination and discernment, sexual activities becoming increasingly risky, continued acting-out despite physical/financial/emotional costs, sexual obsession, loss of time and energy, and neglect of self-care and important responsibilities. Increasing powerlessness and unmanageability are the hallmarks of a developing sexual addiction.

Have you ever wondered if your sexual behavior is problematic? Just like with any addiction, denial can minimize the seriousness of your situation and “conveniently” block from awareness the reality of what’s truly going on. It can be easy to get swept up in the myth that to be gay means to have lots of casual sex and that there’s no limits to what’s acceptable, especially with the gay culture being sexualized by the media and the community itself at times. This is not to pathologize sexual freedom or to condemn those who are liberal with their sexual behavior; it merely points to the importance of establishing a definition of what constitutes healthy sexuality and responsibility to avoid negative repercussions for it’s potential mishandling. The Gay Men Sexual Addiction Screening Test is an assessment tool to help you evaluate your sexual activity. Go to the following site and complete the survey and see how you score: [http://www.sexhelp.com/gsast.cfm]. Use the results from this information to gauge any possible “red flags” in your current sexual behavior.

Why We Get Addicted

All behavior is purposeful. Everything we do has meaning and is intended to meet some kind of need, goal, or result. The origins of sexual addiction are unique to each individual and span biological and psychological motivations. The following are some underlying causes that may drive a person to act-out sexually, according to Simpson.

· Excitement: the need to experience an adrenaline rush, super-charged by risk and novelty.

· Comfort: sex as a way to cope with stress and bring about relief and relaxation; may also be a way to reward oneself for a positive accomplishment.

· Escape: a need to enter a trance-like state to avoid feelings; can be a disinhibitor and cause one to do things normally resisted.

· Affirmation: sex as a way to feel valued and validated; can act as a self-esteem boost and meets a need for wanting to be wanted and to matter.

· Helplessness: as a way to confirm a core belief that one has about believing he is defective and inferior.

· Power: sex as a way to fill psychological voids using dominance and control over another.

· Revenge: anger becomes eroticized and psychological wounds are acted-out.

If you have issues with sexual compulsivity, what unmet needs drive your sexual acting-out? It’s important to pinpoint your motives so that these needs can be addressed and met in more healthy ways. What hurts? What’s missing in your life? How does your sexuality manifest itself?

Getting A Handle On Your Impulses

Sexual addiction is not something that you can typically overcome by reading a book or through sheer willpower. This problem is powerful and causes significant distress and pain to the person struggling with it, as well as his loved ones and those affiliated with him. Working with a trained licensed therapist who specializes in sexual addiction is critical, as well as some form of group therapy or attendance in a Sex Addicts Anonymous support group. For some individuals, medication is needed and primary or secondary mental health issues and other addictions may need treatment as well. If you are struggling with sexual compulsivity, get help NOW before you become too trapped in the downward spiral. Treatment can be a long and challenging road and you will need lots of support and encouragement.

The following are some treatment-oriented suggestions from Simpson’s lecture that can help in overcoming sexual addiction. These are not intended as a substitute for therapy and it is highly recommended that you work with a therapist as you implement these strategies for maximum effectiveness and monitoring.

· Read books on sexual addiction for education. Look in the resources section of this article for recommended readings.

· Become adept at catching self-defeating thoughts and defeating them with cognitive restructuring techniques.

· Identify your triggers to acting-out and develop plans for dealing with these high-risk situations and feelings.

· Practice thought-stoppage techniques to retrain your mind in the use of healthy sexual cognitions.

· Explore ways to bring more healthy aliveness to your life. Find ways to bring more meaning and purpose to your existence and enhance your self-esteem. Build your support network and bring about more balance in all the areas of your life.

· Sexual acting-out can sometimes take on predictable patterns of execution. Learn to identify your “chain reactions” and reconstruct healthier rituals to avoid re-enacting unhealthy sexual behavior.

· Make a list of all the consequences your sexual addiction has or could bring to your life. Make another list of all the benefits recovery can bring to you. Keep these lists with you at all times to take out as reference when you have impulses to act-out as a way to deter from following through with them.

· Develop a custom sexual addiction sobriety contract to clarify what your ongoing sobriety is going to look like with specific target behaviors and “battle plans” for dealing with violations and triggers for acting-out.

There are a multitude of other strategies and techniques that are best addressed with the assistance of a therapist. To locate a sexual addiction-therapist, visit The Society for The Advancement of Sexual Health’s website for possible linkage/referrals in your area at
at [http://www.ncsac.org/members/resources_main.aspx] .

Resources & Conclusion

With effective treatment, motivation for change, and a solid support system, freedom from sexual addiction can be yours! Make healthy sexuality your primary goal and really define what that means to you. The following is a list of recommended resources and readings on this very complex topic!

· Article Reference: Dr. Paul Simpson, Ed.D. Class notes from his presentation “Treating Compulsive Sexual Behaviors.” Visit his site at [http://www.sexstruggles.com] . He conducts national seminars to the public on sexual compulsivity and also provides sex addiction treatment at his group practice.

· Article Reference: Dr. Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. The sex addiction research guru! Visit his site at http://www.sexhelp.com and read his groundbreaking book “Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery” as well as his other series of self-help books on sex and Internet addiction.

· For linkage to a nearby Twelve-Step sex addiction support group, visit such sites as Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (www.sca-recovery.org) and Sex Addicts Anonymous (www.sexaa.org) .

· An excellent book on sex addiction geared toward gay men that I highly recommend is “Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction In Gay Men” by Rob Weiss, MSW. It’s one of the few resources available that’s written specifically for the gay male community and is a must read!

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